Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Thoughts on Gun Play

Since recording the Episode 7 of the AsylumCast on safety recently I have been thinking about the interview we did with Firemankat regarding gun play. Out of respect for my co-host's friendship I tried to remain respectful and allow someone with their own point of view to be able to express it, and in the interest of communicating safety to our audience I had decided to focus solely on certain questions. 

However, in my own blog I can say the things that I feel need to be said. 

There are a number of things that I disagreed with and going to take a moment to discuss them:

  • Gun play is NOT like other edge play. An accident in gun play can result in instant death. Breath play or noose play, and other kinks that are close, can result in death if a scene goes wrong and I know of instances where this has happened. But even if the difference in time is only seconds, a gun will kill instantly and a noose (unless you are doing something very wrong) is going to take a minute or two. The difference in time may be all the difference in the world

  • I have come to believe there is a bit of hysteria in America regarding guns. I don't think that they should be illegal, but they definitely should be taken away from those that have proven they can't handle them or are too unstable to know what they are doing. And there is no reason for most of the weaponry that is available to the public. Doesn't do a lick of good for hunting, way overkill for home or personal protection. They only exist for the purpose of taking a life, and until we decide as a nation that life is too sacred to fuck around with, we are going to have "accidents". Most of the gun craziness only serves to further encourage irresponsible gun handling, and only by keeping it in check are we ever going to reduce the number of preventable handgun deaths.

  • Yesterday I was walking down the street and overheard a group a douche bag sales guy on their way to a titty bar, all one upping each other on their opions about the Trevon Martin case. One guy said, "if someone breaks into my home, they are dead". Really? In every case? What if this fictious burgler is of no real threat to you, is an overwhelming response of force necessary to protect your "stuff"? Is the TV really worth that much to you? What if the burgler is a woman and unarmed themselves? Are you really that big of a man if you shoot someone else that poses no real threat to you? Why can't you subdue them? Give them a warning first? Even the suggestion of incapacitating them with a shot to the knee is not discussed. Nope, just dead. What if the bugler is a child, but you can't tell until after the stupid little 10 year old is dead? Is now your "shoot first ask questions later" stance really effective? Not only are absolutes like what this douche bag sales dude said not taking into account a thousand variable he hasn't considered, they are also illogical. Every organizational force that is charged with protection of some sort (police, military, prisons, etc.) all train their staff to utilize their best resource for always coming out ahead of the bad guys; backup. If someone breaks into your house, your first step shoudl be to call for backup (aka, 911). Then get out of the situation so you are in control, not the other party. And then only if necessary and you are left with no other option is deadly force an option.

  • What originally started this discussion was my assertion that anyone who has a gun in their profile is someone that I will never play with, and is an instant turn off. I still hold this opinion, and likely will for some time to come. There are other such triggers for me besides gun play, that is just one of them. Someone who is BBBH (Bare Back Brother Hood) is also not for me (that is a completely different discussion we can have later). Party and Play is also a line that I draw. Am I saying that these 3 things, gun play &  barebacking & meth usage for play, are all morally equivilant? Nope. But I am saying that I don't think that any one of these three kinds of players are responsible enough with their kink for me to play with. 

  • One of the points that was made over and over was that the best way to be safe with gun play is to make sure that a bullet is not in the chamber; don't play loaded. But there is one thing that can be done that is even safer... DON'T PLAY WITH GUNS!

  • There is a number of articles and studies that show that judgement and decision making capabilities of humans is greatly diminished during a sexual act. How many times have you got done playing to come to find bruises, rug burns, and other minor injuries that you didn't know even happened. When in the moment you can get so caught up in what you are doing that your cognitive reasoning skills are near useless. If we say that it is not a good idea to handle guns when drunk, WHICH I DO, or high on something, why would we take a gun into a situation that is going to result in similar reduction in mental capacity. 

  • I can almost hear the arguements to what I am saying now. But I know what I am doing. I have been trained. I am not like other people. This isn't going to happen to me because I am not one of thsoe people in the studies, not one of those people that is going to end up on the nightly news. THe only problem is that the people who are ending up on the nightly news, the ones that do end up losing their life in a situation that we think of as preventable, tragic or unnecessary, also said the same thing about themselves. It is always the other guys foolish choice until it happens to you.

  • I personally think that those that are engaging in this kind of play are fetishizing death in some sort of way. You can hear it in the call we took on the show. A role play scenario was played out where a bullet (training round) was taken after being bound and told it was "time to say goodnight". When I engage in breath control I am not fantisizing my own death or the death of someone else, and then getting off on it. I don't find it hot that role playing a possible death in any way is responsible or a good idea for anyone's psyche. Death, and therefore Life, are held in a different pantheon of all possible ways we can fetishize the world around us, the different kinks we may have. It is because everything we can turn into a kink is not representative of finality like a death can be, and I don't think we give respect to how death will affect those around us by turning it into a sex game. 

  • My next point is this. A man I greatly respect told me after listening to the show his view. He is a law enforcement official of many years, responsible for leading many others  in the same field. He said the following: "There is nothing sexual about guns to me. People confuse the attraction they have for a self confident man in a position of power with the tools they carry. And I strongly disagree with seeking someone experienced philosophy. The most common accidental shootings we have are with our firearms instructors who handle guns daily and one day get careless out of the commonness of holding a gun. People who only handle guns rarely for emergencies are nervous about touching them. They are meticulous in their handling and never have an accidental discharge." Couldn't have said it better myself, and considering it comes from someone who is armed professionally, I respect his opinion. Basically, the more you fuck around with a gun the more you are increasing your chances of causing a problem.

  • The final opinion I have here is that I don't feel I ever got a satisfactory answer to my question during the show regarding experience. My question was to clarify the point that perhaps there are those out there that should not be doing this kind of play simply because they don't have the same benefit of experience and training that Firemankat has, and my two attempts to get consensus on that didn't seem to go anywhere. Out of respect for someone who came on the show to express their opinion I let it go for that moment, but I am going to make it clear here. The vast majority of people listening to our show or reading this blog do not have the training to be able to handle a gun safely in any kind of sexual scene, and I have laid out why I think that there is no way to have such safe handling. My reasoning for saying I don't play with people who have guns in their profiles is because I don't believe I can trust the judgement of someone who isn't promoting the safety in a full throated endorsement of taking every precaution. And one of those precautions should be to tell people who don't know what they are doing or have no experience/training that this is not the kind of play for them.

At one point there is a moment when the subject of being judged by this play comes up. Judgement is normal in our kink world. Everyone makes a judgement when they hit the "cruise" button or not. We make judgements of other peoples kinks when we are exposed to them and decide that it is or isn't for me. That is normal. Not everyone likes me or my kinks. That is fine and we all live with that reality.

And in my judgement, based on the reasons above, I think that anyone who engages in gun play in a public way is not responsible enough for me to want to have anything to do with sexually. 

I would encourage the boys I play with to use similar judgement. There are too many thrills out there left without having to go to this place.

Well, shit...

There has been a huge lack of posts lately, primarily because of travel, but also because my home computer has been acting weird. Well now it is official that the hard drive died. So I am trying to work through other solutions until I can get it fixed. Until then I will be a little slow on the posting than usual, but will be trying to catch up as soon as I can.

Until then will have a few posts here and there to keep all the followers going until then! 


Monday, April 23, 2012

Asylum Cast - Episode 7

Time to check out Episode 7! This time we started the process of talking about some serious discussion about safety in play, in a whole variety of ways, but still had some fun in between. Go check it out!

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Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Pics: 20 Tweets of the Straight Boy

So I was chatting with this cute boy while I was on my work trip, and ended up having a good time with him. This whole world is new to him, and is at least "mostly" straight, as he needed to get back home to his girlfriend at the end of the night. He mentioned in his profile online that in addition to a lot of fun kinks he was into "having pics and vids taken". 

Well he came to the right place for that!

But just taking pics and videos for this boy's first time wasn't going to be enough. I wanted to make sure this was going to be memorable for him. So I decided to live tweet the scene as we went. I took great delight in making sure he knew his helpless ass was being broadcast out to a bunch of pervs all over the world while he squirmed and struggled. 

Unfortunately twitter took down all the pics, so of course I have to follow up! Here is the entire scene and the associated pics:

(Note on the pics: since Twitter took them down the links no longer work, so I just put in screen caps and copies of the photos)

Follow me on Twitter: @SeanSparky

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(I am in Vegas, and in years past I ran into a lot of flakes, so you never know. Especially with someone that was so new, sometimes they just get cold feet)

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He had a nice nervous energy about him when I picked him up from the casino and took him to the hotel room. But he never backed down. Impressive. 

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Wasn't sure how much experience he had with the kit that I brought, but took to it like a duck to water (so to speak)

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(I love the sound of a guy getting hit in the balls, especially when he hasn't experienced it much, and how surprised they get when their dick gets hard because of it)

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(The moan he gave when I told him that I was doing this only made me harder)

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(I am spoiled by my husband, I am proud to say he is the best in the world, but I have to say this boy did much better than I thought he was going to)

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Asylum Cast - Episode 06!

Ok this one was just a lot of fun for us all, and I hope it is for you. Sometimes it is just nice to cut loose, be funny and be in the moment. I do hope you all are enjoying these, and remember your feedback is always appreicated. Contact us at Asylumcast@Rubberasylum.net

Check it out!

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Friday, April 13, 2012

Puppy is Double Sleepsacked!

A couple of weeks ago the pup came for a visit, and I decided at one point it was time for the boy to get some bondage time in the inflatable sleepsack. The last time that Cypherrub came over he brought his sleepsack, and the next morning after everyone went home I found he left it with a note saying that I was welcome to use it until he came back over, so I have been trying to do just that!

So for Bo, I decided it to do an audio scene, first putting him into the Regulation rubber sleepsack with attached gasmask, which fits him so well. He looks so hot done up in it on its own. Under the hood I had him put into some earphones, which was in turn was hooking into the same sound board we are using for the podcast. This way I could not only feed out music to his hears and the electro box, but also use the mics to do the same. 

In fact, even more fun us to hook the mic up to him as well, as you can see in the photos below. This way whenever he moaned or made any noise whatsoever it was added to the mix of music that was already pounded away with the electro plug in his ass. Moan all you want to boy, just makes it more intense for you.

I think you will agree makes for a great scene!

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Bucket List #8: Bondage, Suspended, Hogtied, Gagged, Blindfolded, Plugged

There is so much going on here it is hard to know where to begin. The fact that it is a hogtie at all is way hot, but then to be suspended while gagged and sightless is amazing. Add to the poor boy being plugged and it an amazing thing to watch. The only thing better would have been if the plug was electrified. 

Or a bag over the head for some breath control!

Or the top separate those legs and fuck the hell out of him up there...

Ooh, bad thoughts, bad thoughts... 

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Asylum Cast: Episode 5

With each week I am getting more and more excited that we are actually doing this now, and having a great deal of fun with it. So can't wait for the next episode. 

You got to check this one out, because we talk about humping cars, gay video game characters, some dudes getting arrested in a bathroom, play a game about the news, and talk about the dangers of reality versus fantasy when seeking out edgy play.

Thank you to all that are sticking with us and spreading the word.


Sunday, April 8, 2012

Bucket List #7: Fucked Rubber Toy with Gas

Ok, this pushes all my buttons. First it is play with two guys I have seen around for a while and admire their work, truly two very hot guys! Hope to meet them one day.

And this scene in particular is one of my favorites. It's got the suspension, which is always amazing. And a straitjacket, which is one of my all time favorite ways to be bound. It has the obviously very tight hood that looks so snug and intense.

All that on it's own would be hot enough, but then the top comes in, gasses the boy up in a bag with some spray poppers, and then goes to town fucking him.

I have done all of these elements separately, but never combined into one scene where I would feel so helpless and used. Hopefully one day!

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Is the look in his eyes

I need a leather hood!

Anyone that has been in my playroom knows I have a thing for hoods and gasmasks, and really we don't have much in the way of a shortage at the moment. However, the one thing we are short on is leather hoods. I only have 1!!!

All the rest are rubber!

Especially lately I have been craving having a hood that goes with the Leather Sleepsack, both because it would look good but also to have that full body leather enclosed feeling which I love as both a top and a sub. So I have been thinking about what the next hood is going to be.

Now don't get me wrong, the one leather hood that we do have, the Leather Puffy Hood, is very amazing. I love the large mouth opening, just open enough for a nice cock sucking. And the thing is super comfy as hell! I can and have worn it for hours at a time. But still, part of the thing is that it is almost too comfy, a good thing sometimes, but other times I kind of wish I had a more intense hood. 

This would be a great example. My ex had one of these and I miss him putting me in it. It was intense! The Sci-Fi Hood has a very think leather to it, making it rather unforgiving to the sub, wrapping your head in a rigid case of leather. The smell enough was to make you swoon! Once all of the buckles are all locked on the intensity gets ratcheted up another notch. The inside of the mouth area makes it feel like you might be able to communicate a little bit, the rigid chin keeps the mouth closed, so while not impossible being able to talk is very difficult. The first time I was put in it I nearly freaked after a while, which only made it that much hotter.

One of the other hoods that I think that I need to consider for the next one would be the Breath Control Deluxe Tight Hood. Those who know what I get into know that I love a good tight hood and breath control, and usually I have to cobble some things together to make it work. This makes that a breeze with the respirator mask built right in, something I could attach the hoses and rebreather bags directly to. And the fact that it has a locking collar only makes it hotter.

Of course, this one is another option that I am really considering. The Inflatable Deluxe Tight Hood not only looks amazing but this inflation part makes it a very interesting hood! it would appear that the inflatable part is in the back, so as you inflate the hood it pushes the head into the face part, probably making is much more comfortable while also making it more of a heavy bondage experience for the sub. I love the look of the face part though, and think that it both gives a little bit of personality to the boy while also still turning him into an object to be played with. That with the soft leather that their hoods are known for and I think that this would be a very worthy hood to add to the collection.

However, I think that if I were to make the decision today it would have to be the Deluxe Sidelace Hood. They come in either closed eyes or open eyes, but I would take the one without the eye openings. I like the open mouth, giving the option of using a gag with it or not, and versatility is something I always look for in gear. And I know that lacing is going to make sure it is a snug fit, perfect for storing someone away. The best part is that I am sure it is going to look awesome with the leather sleepsack! This might just have to be the one!